Christians often become preoccupied with chasing perfection—not God’s will or purpose, but their own version of it, or at least the illusion of it. And therein lies the problem. If our mission is to share God’s love with the world, how can we do so while judging and condemning those who have yet to know Christ? It’s a contradiction. After all, true repentance can only come after someone has heard and understood the gospel.
This post isn’t about telling you to “do whatever you please, and go on and sin.” It’s more of a loving nudge to stop gatekeeping grace and forcing people into shame. Salvation isn’t earned through guilt or a list of “don’ts.” It’s the Spirit that changes hearts—not our condemning words.
If that made you uncomfortable, good. Keep reading.
The Problem With Some Christians Today
The issue isn’t that we’re passionate about our faith. Passion is good! The issue is that some have turned their passion for obedience into self-righteousness, and that? That slips quickly into pride. And what does pride do? It builds walls where bridges should be.
It works like this:
- “Stop listening to this kind of music.”
- “Stop hanging out with those people.”
- “Dress like this, not like that.”
- “Be more like sister or brother so and so.”
And before you know it, you’re sitting there thinking you’ve got the formula to salvation. The manual to holiness. But hear me—it’s not your “perfection” that brings people to Christ. It’s His love. His goodness. His GRACE.
The Bible reminds us in Romans 2:4 that it’s God’s kindness that leads us to repentance. Not finger-wagging. Not “holier-than-thou” attitudes. Just kindness, lived out with humility.
We All Need Grace. Period.
You’re no better than the guy smoking weed to numb his pain. Or the girl drinking herself into Nothingness because she feels unloved. Or the woman crying tears of regret after an abortion, wondering if God still sees her.
Guess what? He does. And His heart breaks for her, not because she’s “failed,” but because she didn’t know His comfort, His provision, and His eternal hope in that moment of despair.
We don’t need “perfect” Christians pointing fingers and turning hearts colder. We need grace-filled followers of Christ extending love and compassion in a world that can feel so unbearably heavy.
What Changes Us? The Holy Spirit. Period.
Here’s the truth—we can’t change anyone. Only the Holy Spirit can do that. It’s His power, not our “perfect” behavior, that moves hearts and breaks chains. We’re just messengers. Vessels. Witnesses of what He’s already done in us.
If you think guilt or shame brings people closer to Jesus, stop. It doesn’t. All you’re creating is fake religiosity and/or rebellion. True change comes from experiencing God’s unconditional love. His overwhelming, undeserved grace. The kind of love that says, “You don’t have to clean yourself up to come to me. Come as you are. I love you too much to leave you stuck and broken.”
That’s the Gospel.
To the Ones Who Feel Broken:
To those running to substances to quiet the pain.
To the mothers weighed down by hard choices and silent shame.
To the ones feeling abandoned, unseen, and unworthy.
You are not alone. You are loved. You are cared for.
God’s love isn’t like man’s love. It’s not conditional. It doesn’t vanish when you make mistakes. It’s eternal—and when you accept Jesus into your heart, it’s yours. Forever. That kind of love has the power to transform. Not with shame, but with grace.
If you’ve been told you’re beyond redemption—hear this loud and clear—you’re not. You’re never too far gone for His love to reach you.
A Reminder for Us All
Christians, remember why we’re here. It’s not to critique. It’s not to condemn. It’s not to puff ourselves up.
It’s to go out into the world and point people to the truth. To extend the same love we’ve been given unconditionally. To get down into the messy, broken parts of life and bring light—not turn it into a contest of who’s more “holy.”
Love better. Drop the judgment and pick up grace instead. It’s much lighter to carry—and way more effective.
Can I get an amen?
